He has managed to help me find some humor in my situation and come to terms with other issues with body image that I struggle with. We have a very close relationship and he has asked some very good questions in a very sensitive manner. He has been incredibly kind, supportive, honest, with me. In revealing this to him, he has seen how much I struggle with body image issues, and living with an Ostomy.
I hid it from him for several years, and due to some traveling that we were going to have to do together for a conference I felt it only fair to inform him of my medical condition should something happen. I want you to know that my best friend is a gay male, who I have recently told about my ostomy. I understand there will be some that I may not be able to. If you have questions that I can help you with I will be more than happy to help you. It's only a big deal to those who make it a big deal.Īs I've said I've had my illieosotomy my whole life, I am a 42 year old straight woman, I know you were seeking to connect with gay men to gain some answers to questions that you have, and I hope you will get those answers. You have a heart like everyone else, you have arms, legs, hands feet, eyes, ears, just like everyone else. Being gay in no way makes you a sub unit or different. Not at all, you are a human being, capable of loving and being loved. I have only one concern, and that is your perception of yourself, "more of a sub unit"? Really? No your not. I have had my illeostomy my ENTIRE life my first surgery was at 10 weeks of age! So I know a thing or two or three.ĪAirman, congratualtions on posting on here, good for you.
For the most part I have found it a positive place to get advice, and encouragement which we all need from time to time. I am quite new to this site, and have not posted very much, doing a lot of reading to get the feel of things and people on this board.